When a Courtship Ends

“I thought I had found the right person for me. ‘I could spend forever with this guy,’ . But after two months of dating, I had to break up with him. umulisa

Sep 17, 2021 - 10:17
Sep 17, 2021 - 10:25
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When a Courtship Ends

Have you been through something similar? If so, this article can help you deal with the experience.

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW

A breakup can be painful, even for the person who initiated it. “I felt terrible!” says a young woman named Sarah, who broke up with her boyfriend after six months. “One minute this person was in my life and in my future; the next minute he was gone. Then I’d hear songs that were special to the two of us, and that would remind me of the good times we had. I’d be at places that were special to us, and I’d feel the pain of his absence. I felt all of this even though I was the one who initiated the breakup!”

A breakup, though painful, can be a good thing. You don’t want to hurt the person. On the other hand, you realize that eventually it would hurt both of you if you were to pursue a courtship that just isn’t working.

A breakup does not make you a failure. Really, a successful courtship ends in a decision, not always in marriage. If either you or your partner has serious misgivings, the right decision may well be to break up. If that happens, the fact that the relationship has failed does not mean that you have failed. You can move on! How?

 WHAT YOU CAN DO

Acknowledge the pain.  Sometimes the best way out of pain is through it, not around it. Acknowledging the reality of your own feelings can be the first step in healing.

Associate with people who care about you.  spending time with close friends who could build you up.

Learn from what happened. Ask yourself: ‘Has this experience revealed any areas in which I need to grow? What, if anything, would I do differently in my next relationship?

Nsengiyaremye Jean Pierre Jean Pierre NSENGIYAREMYE is a professional Journalist who holds bachelor degree in Journalism and Communication from University of Rwanda. C.E of The Facts.rw. he worked with Media and Development Consultancy Ltd as communication specialist , this company is specialized in media consulting, training, as well as doing research. He worked at Pax Press. He is the digital journalist at thechoicelive.com and umuseke.rw. he has different training certificate from PAX PRESS and AKAZI KANOZE projects.